Finally one day, I’m not sure when or how, but I realized that I had lost myself in the process. And I never did. Jamie Johnson. Here's what I wish I had done differently to prepare. I made that choice because my mom did, and I thought it was the right thing to do, for them, for me, even for her. Required fields are marked *, Our Mission is to provide families with wraparound services that empowers and nurtures them in their new family dynamics. I was defeated. September 1, 2018. But now what? I have always been extremely focused on my career. I yells sometimes (although I have been trying to work on it! Case in point ― I grew up on Chef Boyardee and raw cookie dough, and I think I turned out OK. She loved both. Karen Szabo - August 8, 2018 . Why I’m Done Being the Low Maintenance Girlfriend. “You need to space new food out at least three days apart.”. I could tell from about a month in that my boy was going to be a talker, and just like with most first time moms, I couldn’t wait until he said his first word. I know how lucky I am and I wouldn’t swap it for anything. How Dare You Accuse Me of Being A Bad Mom Sarah! Submitted by Mammaof2plus2 on Thu, 05/23/2019 - 2:01pm. I'm throwing it in the dumpster, where it damn well belongs. I had spent 70 long days in the hospital with her fighting battles left and right. 6899. I know it sounds dramatic, but it was really scary seeing my daughter like this, and I felt I had done this to her. Posted on November 13, 2018 by beaumontparentingprogram. I’m writing this with tears rolling down my face. Thank you for always being there in my life and always looking out for me. Reply. The world is moving so fast these days that the man who says it can’t be done is generally interrupted by someone doing it. Gilead. It’s overcoming feelings of shame when the voice in my head whispers “I can’t wait for them to just go to bed”. Apparently, 9 Mini Vodka Bottles And A Bowl of Pretzels Is Inappropriate. I was going to be a “good” mom this weekend and actually make new foods for my daughter to try. I went from being a full time employee at an amazing job who had clients to visit, charts to update, meetings to attend, to being just a mom. Like Liked by 1 person. Guilty over my realization that, after more than 15 years spent parenting three children as a stay-at-home mom, I don't love being a parent as much as I thought I would. And run a marathon. I felt deflated, useless and worn down. I am not a very young mom, but I did leave my goal in of being a buyer for a big company to being a SHAM and learning to work from home. I was religious about it in the beginning, but in my fury to join the ranks of those damn baked soufflé moms, I forgot. My treatment plan was my old drunken college order from Taco Bell and two ice cream sandwiches. For this week. I was alone. It's a constant juggling act, and not a day goes by that I don't question my choice. Why I’m Done Being Super-Mom. Quotes about being done. It’s putting the feelings of guilt aside and going out to lunch with girlfriends. You see, no one tells you the very first rule of motherhood. This article was originally published on YourTango. Thank you for the tips and encouragement that I can be done! L ike many women, I do most of the house work – the kitchen, the laundry (my husband is allowed to do the laundry, just not fold laundry), the washrooms, the vacuuming, etc. Why I’m Done Being Just A Mom. I had all intentions of doing so, until I saw the work that went into it and suddenly those pre-made jars on sale were calling my name! As always, it took a phone call with my mom this morning to make me feel better. Look at it this way, In an airplane, you’re instructed to put on your oxygen mask first before helping anyone else. Thank you so much for this. Now for as long as I can remember, I’ve always been busy (insert future post about battling anxiety). Looked up Pinterest worthy recipes to surprise my husband with for dinner. Being a mom can mean so many different things to different people, but the underlining factors are all the same. Every family deserves non-judgmental compassionate support on the life-changing journey of welcoming a new baby. When you see the effort they put into their look, if you understand the time and cost of highlights and lowlights every six … I’m done with being a “good” mom and I’m just going to be a mom who trusts her gut. I know he had his problems with the ADHD and learning disability. My oldest daughter was home for the summer and just happy to be around me and her baby sister. I then read an article where they said it was important to introduce your child to things like eggs and peanut butter early on, instead of at a year old like previously believed, to prevent your child from allergies later on in life. Shore Grace Family Wellness provides in-home services to help nurture and strengthen families on the Eastern Shore as they transition into life with their new little ones. And work in the music industry. No fancy caseworker title, no full time student. I had this idea in my mind that being a good mommy meant unmanicured nails, the same yoga pants all week, and always being too tired for company. But for now, I'm done feeling guilty about being "just" a mom. I’m throwing it in the dumpster, where it damn well belongs. Being A Mom Means Never Using The Bathroom … I remember one day shortly after we brought our daughter Adalyn home from the NICU sitting in the bed and thinking…now what? July 3, 2018 at 2:57 pm. I know these are things that parents are supposed to do for their children, but I don't think anyone else could have done it any better. I daydream about attending conferences. It’s letting go of the idea that I can do it all and never burn out. Just mom. I had spent 70 long days in the hospital with her fighting battles left and right. My daughter’s treatment plan was steroids, Benadryl, and staying away from eggs and peanut butter until at least a year old until we can reintroduce. I don’t believe these feelings make me a bad mother, I’m a great mom, especially for boys; I can joke about wieners, boogers don’t bother me, and girl clothes are puzzling. Took a nap and then smacked Mike on the back when I heard him crying because it was his turn. We’re all in the beautiful madness of motherhood together. It was a bit of an anti-climax considering it was some derivative of ‘dad’ – why that happens with a lot of babies I will never know. Working and school was all I knew. 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